This can manifest in several ways. It can be drama on the job…"but I need this money" so I’m going to deal with it and then before you know it…you’re engaged in the day to day office mess. Or maybe its not drama but you are clearly unhappy and the work has nothing to with your degree…goals…PURPOSE…its DYSFUNCTION.
Dysfunction could come in the form of unhealthy relationships…friends…significant others…family members. This can look like requiring more than you can handle…draining you of resources socially, emotionally, and spiritually. We often chalk this dysfunction to being "loyal"...."ride or die"..you know "THAT" person. You must stop and see if the person is even CAPABLE of reciprocating what you are willing to give. Far too often we commit to the potential of a person without allowing them to prove who they really are. Often times people never live up to their potential because they lack self awareness. If someone doesn't know themselves, then they can't truly get to know you.
So what do we do? BE HONEST [with yourself, with others, with GOD] ...about what??? {about your desires, your feelings, your expectations} If you are transparent and honest with yourself, then you are able to be vulnerable and transparent with God. As a result, He allows us this impeccable view of ourselves and that is when we receive CLARITY. Once things are clear it is easy to articulate your wants, desires, discomfort, and feelings. You start to LIVE and WALK in your TRUTH!
Where there is truth and transparency...there is no room for DYSFUNCTION. Light and darkness can't dwell in the same place. God is not one of dysfunction. We don't have to accept it. In fact, it takes a very STRONG person to be vulnerable because it is a huge risk. Do not be afraid to seek the truth, speak your truth, and live in your truth. If you need to talk to someone, go to counseling, or actually do something crazy like make yourself a priority...SO BE IT. It is time to call chaos what it is...dysfunction...crazy...not welcomed here any longer!
So here's to open hearts, clear minds, and lives free of dysfunction!
Signed,
The Culturalista